5 Coping Strategies from a NJ Divorce Lawyer

The legal divorce process begins when one spouse files a “Complaint for Divorce” with the Superior Court of New Jersey; but outside of the courtroom, we recognize that coping with divorce is not easy to do. Whether it is amicable or not, it marks an end of a love that once existed; which can be hard for anyone. But thankfully there are a few survival strategies to help you get through.

1. Allow yourself to Grieve After Divorce

Realizing that grieving is okay is an important first step. A whole slew of emotions will show up: anger, sadness, confusion, frustration and disappointment – they are all normal things to feel. Embrace them. If you suppress them they may linger and grow. Find a trusted friend or therapist to talk to about them too.

2. Give Yourself a Break

Some “alone time” to reflect on your past relationship (and plan for your future) is important. No one is superman, so take some time to emotionally heal and get your spirits up.

3. Don’t Go Through a Divorce Alone

Support from friends and family can really help you get through these tough times. Don’t be embarrassed to admit that you’re hurting and you need emotional support. If you don’t want to confide in a friend, then think about talking to a divorce therapist or going to a support group.

4. Create a Healthy Routine

Making healthy food choices, sleeping well, meditation and exercise all aid in helping you through a divorce. Healthy routines will provide comfort and normalcy to a tumultuous time. Choosing these healthy habits over drugs and alcohol will stabilize your life and lead to long-term health benefits as well.

5. Self-Reflect and Improve

Going through a divorce does not mean you cannot grow positively from it. Take time to reflect on your past decisions to provide insight and help you improve (and move on). An important step in divorce is to assess your problems and try to correct them. Take as many positives out of the situation as you can.

Understand the Grounds for Divorce in New Jersey

Divorces filed in New Jersey fall under one of two different types: no-fault divorce or fault-based divorce. Under these two types of divorce, there are multiple kinds of divorce, so understanding them can help you prepare for it both emotionally and financially.

In the State of New Jersey, there are nine court-recognized grounds for divorce. Two of those grounds are considered no-fault grounds (irreconcilable differences and separation) by the New Jersey courts. The other seven (extreme cruelty, adultery, desertion, addiction, entering a mental institution, imprisonment and deviant sexual conduct) are considered at-fault grounds and may have to be proven in order to successfully obtain a divorce. Whatever your reasons for divorce may be, it is essential that you talk to a NJ divorce lawyer to understand what your rights are prior to filing a Complaint for Divorce in Ocean County or Monmouth County.

Hire an Experienced NJ Divorce Attorney

Peace of mind is important in a time like this. You should not have to worry about your legal representation. Whenever possible, our firm encourages couples to resolve their differences through civil and cooperative methods such as collaborative divorce. We also offer divorce mediation services to help spouses work through sensitive issues such as child custody and domestic support.

Since 1996, Villani & DeLuca has been legally representing individuals in New Jersey through their divorce. Every case is unique and should be treated as such. Our family law attorneys will help you through every step of this difficult and sensitive process, giving you the choice to resolve your marriage on your own terms. Call now for your free initial consultation at 888-389-9533.