New Year's Resolution
January is reportedly the most popular time of year to file for divorce. And rumor has it that January is ominously nicknamed “Divorce Month”. The end of the year brings reflections and the focus on upcoming resolutions. The holidays also bring on a time of high emotions; if a couple is unhappy in their marriage, they may be pushed to their breaking point. Divorce is certainly a difficult emotional rollercoaster, so it's no wonder that some people prefer to hold off until the New Year.
Waiting for the New Year
Are you hoping to separate from your spouse next year? If so, then you are not alone. While getting a NJ divorce doesn't exactly top the 2015 New Year's resolutions, it is actually a common one. For some, a new year means the chance for a fresh start. If the best way to get that fresh start is to cut off a poor marriage, then you may want to speak with one of our attorneys at Villani & DeLuca P.C. Whenever possible, our firm encourages couples to resolve their differences through civil and cooperative methods such as collaborative divorce. This method is an alternative to traditional divorce litigation, which are typically contentious and stressful for the spouses and their children.
When to Tell the Kids
The reality is there's not really a good answer for when to tell children about your decision to divorce but since the holidays are supposed to be a magical time, many commit to giving their children one last happy holiday as an intact family. And there's nothing wrong with that. Come January, if it's still not working, they know it's time to move on. Understandably, children could be scared or confused about what a divorce means for them. It's wise to be truthful with kids and address their concerns as best you can. And deliver the message together; studies found that children benefit when the news comes from both parents.
Consult with an Experienced Attorney
Trying to find the right time for such a difficult decision is always a difficult challenge, and there may not be a perfect moment. But once you have made the decision to divorce, the first step you must take is to seek assistance from an experienced attorney. If your relationship is feeling extra-bitter cold in January, know that you're not alone … but don't make your decision to divorce based on the trends. Do what's best for your and your spouse and contact Villani & DeLuca P.C to guide you through. New Years' resolution or not, divorce doesn't have to be complicated. Schedule your free consultation with our attorneys and be confident that you're taking the right steps towards a new you. To learn more about how Villani & DeLuca P.C. can help you with your NJ divorce issues, please contact us at (732) 709-7757 today and speak with Vincent C. DeLuca, Esq. We represent families throughout Ocean County and Monmouth County, New Jersey.