Divorce mediation in New Jersey is growing in popularity among couples who wish to resolve their legal disputes without the time, cost or stress typically involved with court litigation. Couples choosing divorce mediation opt to work out their differences at the mediation table rather than have a judge impose a solution on them.
In divorce mediation, you, your spouse, and your respective lawyers hire a neutral third party, called a mediator, to meet with you in an effort to discuss and resolve the issues in your divorce. The mediator does not make any decisions, but rather facilitates the parties to arrive at their own agreement in a non-adversarial environment. The parties decide the terms and fairness of their own agreement with or without independent advice from their attorneys. Both parties typically share the cost of a New Jersey divorce mediator.
Qualified, Experienced NJ Divorce Mediator
Certified in Matrimonial Law, partner Vincent DeLuca, Esq. is also a Family Law Mediator and Economic mediator in New Jersey. He is uniquely able to combine his legal knowledge of divorce as a practicing attorney with his mediation skills to facilitate effective, agreeable solutions. As a certified mediator, Mr. DeLuca serves as a neutral third-party, helping spouses resolve conflicts, address particularly contentious issues and create a plan of action that serves the best interests of all involved parties.
In addition. Mr. DeLuca helped to create the Jersey Shore Collaborative Law Group, which is a state-wide initiative pushing divorce mediation as an alternative to traditional divorce proceedings.
Advantages of Divorce Mediation
- Quicker Outcome. You and your spouse set your own time frame for resolving issues, without having to wait months for the next court date.
- Cost Savings. Costs are typically split between you and your spouse to pay the mediator who is dedicated to helping you both reach a resolution. Mediators are typically paid by the hour, at a rate significantly less than your attorney. Additionally, legal fees and the cost of a prolonged court battle are avoided or reduced through mediation.
- More Control of Your Resolution. You control the discussion and the outcome. You choose the topics that you want to discuss and settle. You, not the court, have final say over the terms of your agreement. Arbitrated settlements tend to be more flexible because your input is not inhibited by traditional legal approaches.
- Confidentiality. Communications, documents and work notes made or used in mediation are completely confidential. Unlike at court, where you argue your case in a public courtroom in front of a judge, officers and court employees as well as other litigants and attorneys, the mediation discussion does not have an audience. Additionally, nothing discussed during mediation is submissible in court, so both spouse can express their thoughts truthfully.
- Protects Your Children From Conflict. Custody trials usually require your children to be interviewed and observed by several experts. Your children may even be required to appear at court. A mediator neutralizes and keeps the focus on the children’s needs, while engaging parents in a more sensitive and less conflicting process.
- Neutralizing. A neutral mediator is there to help all parties arrive at a mutually acceptable agreement by emphasizing cooperative problem solving.
Preparing for Divorce Arbitration
- If children are involved, be prepared to always put their best interests first. True, children are resilient, but divorce is hard on them. Help them cope by minimizing the negative impact. Chances are, if you opted for mediation, you are already taking this into consideration. Regardless of their age, communicate to them about what’s happening and agree to talk to your children together.
- Agree to mediate and talk logistically. This doesn’t mean you have to all of a sudden like each other again, but staying on friendly terms and communicating civilly will help the process along. Be prepared to disagree on some things, but regard all opinions with the same importance as your own.
- Get organized to prepare and provide all the necessary documentation in advance of your meetings.
- Make lists to determine what’s truly important to you and what you can live without. Figure out your range of acceptable terms from everything you hope to get and the things you absolutely will not walk away without.
- Take a deep breath and realize that divorce is never easy and always involves some sort of stress. If you approach the mediation with the proper frame of mind, your stress level will be greatly minimized.
Contact an Experienced NJ Divorce Mediation Law Firm for Help
If you would rather not involve the courts and instead have control of your divorce settlement, mediation may be the solution. The divorce mediators at Villani & DeLuca, P.C. will work with you and your spouse to come to an agreement mutually acceptable. The mediators at Villani & DeLuca can be reached 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 732-965-3350; call today and begin working towards an amicable, mutually beneficial divorce.