Finding Humor through a Divorce

laughterDivorce is one of the most stressful things children and adults go through. Anger, hurt, sadness, confusion, frustration and resentment are very real (and reasonable) emotions throughout the entire separation process. Yes it’s true, divorce is not funny, but sometimes you have to laugh to get through and lead a joyful life again. Staying stuck in hurtful emotions can rob you of future happiness. Cliché as it might sound, laughter really is the best medicine; the best way to turn a negative into a positive is to find the humor in it and laugh.

“If we couldn’t laugh we would all go insane.” Robert Frost

Laughing can seem like a minor thing, something we all do without really thinking about it. Some of us do it more than others and we’ve been doing it since we were infants laughing milk out our noses. Life is complicated and divorces are even more complicated (and messy); sometimes those laugh-out-loud moments are not always that easily accessible…but here are a few tips to amp up the fun factor during stressful times:

1. Take Good Care of YOU.

You’ve heard it all before. Eat right, exercise, get enough sleep…and laugh. Follow through with these simple tips and you will improve your physical, mental, emotional and physiological well-being. Keeping your sanity and peace is an important piece of the puzzle to happiness. In addition, working with an experienced New Jersey Family Law attorney can help to alleviate the stress of the situation by guiding you through the legal process and showing you your options including a collaborative divorce or a divorce mediation.

“The human race has only one really effective weapon and that is laughter.” Mark Twain

2. Surround Yourself with Laughter.

Start giggling already. Go to comedy clubs, watch funny movies, listen to stand -up comedy CDs in the car and find the funny in your life. Would you believe that Sarah Jessica Parker is even staring in a new comedy called…wait for it…Divorce. Understand that there is life after divorce and you can control whether you’re upbeat and joyful about it or you’re still hiding at home under the comforter with a pint of ice cream and a box of tissue.

“Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath. And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with them.” Unknown

3. Distract Your Mind.

Look for new activities and hobbies to pursue that distract your mind from the difficult time you have been going through. This will give you a new sense of fulfillment and enjoyment. Consider volunteering; studies show that helping others in need is a good way to distract you from your own troubles.

“You can’t deny laughter; when it comes, it plops down in your favorite chair and stays as long as it wants.” Stephen King

Contact a New Jersey Divorce Lawyer Today

Whether you’re facing a divorce trial or seeking divorce mediation in Monmouth or Ocean County, New Jersey, contact the divorce law firm of Villani & DeLuca, P.C. as soon as possible. We are committed to help you through this difficult time and ensure you are fully protected…and we might even crack a joke to make you laugh. We can be reached 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 888-389-9533. Call today for a free consultation from our trusted attorneys in family law.